Sunday, August 08, 2004

Love And Commitment III

If relationships are so complicated, what's the whole purpose of it?

To put it simply, getting in a relationship is to see whether that person is indeed the special someone that you want to spend the rest of your life with. And if that person isn't, it's a chance to learn about being in a committed relationship and prepare you for the time when you're meant to be with that special someone.

When you get into a relationship, you've taken the relationship to another level. As the relationship grows with work and commitment, so does love. And after that long journey, when both of you come to the conclusion that you truly love the person and he or she truly loves you, the relationship can taken to the next level, a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together. Then another journey begins. (But that's another story for another day and considering everyone who reads this, it really doesn't apply to us. Yet.)

Of course that doesn't mean that your first boyfriend/girlfriend is going to your be partner for the rest of your life, because only one of your relationships is going to reach the last level. Most of the time people have to go through a few before finding right one. So what's the point of going through all those failed relationships then? Those failed relationships are valuable lessons to learn from the mistakes and make the next relationship a better one. There's a saying, "What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger" and though those failed relationships can hurt really really really really bad, you come out of them stronger and that will make your next relationship stronger as well.

What I say doesn't apply to those who play around of course. If you play around, expect to get played too, which I feel doesn't amount to anything. I don't know if you believe that for everyone of us there's a special person or that there many potential partners out there for everyone. To tell the truth, I don't know myself, but I feel that every relationship that you have should be treated seriously. When things such as feelings are involved, one should be kidding around because whatever happens could hurt that person deeply and maybe for the rest of their life.

You're right when you say that relationships are complicated. People are complicated. Love is complicated. And when you put these 2 complicated matters together, the result isn't going be a simple one like 1 + 1 = 2. Everyone deals it with in their own way.

Well, that's my perspective on this matter and my brain's feeling sucked dry from all these thinking so I'll just end here.


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