Love And Commitment II

Why do so many couples still breakup even though both sides are in love and committed to the relationship?
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The thing is, relationships have to be constantly worked on. It's simple, if you go to a party and meet someone for the first time, do you expect to become buddies right away? Definitely not. And if you don't see each other again after the party, that isn't going to change anything. If you want to become better friends or take your friendship to another level, you've got to do something. You've got to work on the relationship between the both of you.

It's the same in a love relationship. If you've been together for only a week, don't expect your love to have the same strength as couple that's been together for 3 years. Although at first it might seem that you both love each other so much and are willing to die for each other, it's just from the high of being in love, only time can tell how strong a relationship is.

Once the relationship starts, you've got to work on it. Love is the center of a relationship and how it develops determines how the relationship develops too. How can you say you love somebody if you barely know them? That's the reason why couples go on dates and spend time with each other. The more time you spend with someone, the better you get to know them and the real person inside, and the more you can fall in love with him or her.

One of the reasons why couples break up is because they fail or aren't able to work on the relationship and so it just fades away. If you aren't able to spend time with one another and just leave the relationship right where it is, it will die. Just like the way your Tamagochi will die if you don't feed it. That's the reason why long distance relationships are so hard to maintain. It takes a strong relationship to keep a long distance relationship going.

At other times a relationship might fail because only one person is working on the relationship or they aren't working on the relationship together. When that happens, both sides tend to have disagreements and arguments all the time because they have different ideas as to the level of commitment they have to give to the relationship and how the relationship should go. A relationship is a 2 way thing and must be worked on together. A car can't go straight if one wheel turns left and the other turns right. (Here's a tip: An essential key on working a relationship is Communication.)

A relationship doesn't go "happily ever after" after a couple decides to start one. It's only after that the journey begins.

So then, some might ask,

If relationships are so complicated, what's the whole purpose of it?