Friday, February 18, 2005

The People Factor

Read this accurate but hiliarious article by Mr Brown.

Life is getting scary, Mummy..

Dear Mummy,

I am feeling very sad.

Today in school, Zhong Guoren — my classmate from China — beat me again, in a maths test. That boy is an unstoppable genius machine.

Last week, he beat me in sports too.

If he were not here, I would have come in first and gotten a gold. But because the Government says we must welcome foreign talents to increase our population and to improve our economy, I got a bronze instead. This sucks.

Do you feel the same way as Khia Soo? For me, I never really had any problem competing with others in my academic studies. I think you'll only start worrying that way if you're one of those competing at the top.

I've never been a top student, but if I were, I don't think I would start worrying about competition from foreign students. For me, any tough competition, just pushes me further, and if I lose to the other dude fair and square, I can simply quote William Hung and say, "I've done my best and I have no regrets at all."

Those people who start complaining about competition from foreign students are just being sore losers I feel. It's like complaing that your team got beat by Arsenal because they fielded an all-foreign team. Besides, those China students are damn hardworking so why should you complain if they beat you?

It's just the kiasu mentality showing itself.


Ever since my family left for the US, lots of people have been asking me how I've been, whether I'm doing alright, etc... especially in church where my parents used to be the pastors. Almost every sunday, somebody will see me, call my name out in delight and start asking me the usual questions.

At first it was quite nice having someone ask about you but after a while it started to get a little annoying having to answer the same questions over and over again. Perhaps to them I'm a tangible link that reminds them of my parents whenever they see me.

The question they always like to ask and I don't like to answer is, "So do you miss your family?"

That's because my answer to that is "No". But of course it's one of those questions where you're expected to say "Yes", so I just reply "not really" with a smile and then quickly change the topic by saying that I miss my dog the most.

I'm not really close to my family. I'm not sure how it got that way, but I don't blame anyone, least of all my parents. Perhaps it had something to do with their job.

Being a pastor means becoming the spiritual parents of the whole church as well, so you can't possibly expect them to handle both equally, and when the two clash, God's work always comes first. I've seen what my parents have done for the church and how much they have touched people's lives. So in a way my loss has been worth it because so much more have gained. =)

I've seen what it's like being a pastor and I can truly say that it's one of the toughest jobs in the world. Why? Because you're dealing with people. And when you've dealt with people long enough, you start to see all their worst traits. All the lies, back stabbing, hypocrisy, narrow-mindedness, selfishness and judgementality that people have and are capable of.

Imagine helping someone in need and then having that exact same person spread lies behind your back not long after. If this was the real world, you wouldn't be surprised, but these things are going on inside the church!

I'm sure you've heard this phrase before, "I believe in God, it's just His people I can't stand."

Now I know why you need divine calling and guidance to become a pastor.


Blogger Melissa said...

Your parents are pastors? Both? Never hear you mentioned that. I guess some of your parents traits rubbed off you - the open mindness, the accepting nature and so on (base on what little i know abt u la). :)

Yeah I get what you mean by people keep on asking you the same question. For me, it's like "Yo texas babe, have you found yourself a cowboy as your boyfriend yet? Do you speak southern drawl now? Yeeehar! " Now, how you gonna repsond to that ?

1:22 PM  
Anonymous keithf said...

Quite right about the bit on competition.

With globalization, one must know that we arent only competing amongst the few Chinese/Indian whizzkids in school. In fact, it's every one around the globe.

It's a jungle out there - it's the survival of the fittest.

2:38 PM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

Melissa: I didn't tell you? I thought I did. Well, I'm glad those traits of theirs rubbed off on me. Haha.

Man, I'll just scold whoever asks me that question. Haha. But really, do you talk with southern accent yet? =P

Keithf: Yep. If people start getting scared of competition while in school, how to compete in the real world?

4:48 PM  
Blogger Jayaxe said...

I think I know what you mean. Say if I were in your position, why would I miss the family when I'm enjoying freedom? Hahaha.

7:51 PM  
Anonymous Joe said...

Haha i heard another version of that but basically both are the same lah lol maybe this is more crude?

It's not God I dislike. It's his fans.


7:56 PM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

Jayaxe: Exactly. Especially when my parents always tried to restrict my freedom. But now, I have FREEDOM! Haha.

Joe: Yeah, I heard that before. But the bottom line is still the same, it's the people factor that irritate me.

2:21 AM  
Anonymous h3lix said...

Argg i want freedommmmmmmmm

9:19 AM  
Blogger FF said...

Wow, were your parents really strict when you were growing up?

11:03 AM  
Blogger Cowboy Caleb said...

Competition is good. Survival of the fittest. Evolution of the species and all that.

4:07 PM  
Blogger the politician said...

yea darwin's theory of natural selection. survival of the fittest.

4:49 PM  
Anonymous h3lix said...

FF: Refering to me ah? haha well yepp. it's either the grades or my butt gets it. so i could say it was damn bloody strict lol. like a typical triditional chinese family i could say but nevertheless i love them =)

11:51 PM  
Blogger JellyGirl said...

Yeah when I was away from home for 3 years, I missed only my dog, and never my family! I know you feel :)

4:29 PM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

H3lix: I'm sure freedom is coming soon for you also. :)

FF: They weren't that strict I find. Like normal parents I guess. But as I grew up they didn't give me as much freedom as most of my friends did. So I rebelled. Haha. :P

Cowboy/Politician: All the more reason we should welcome the China students. So the top local students don't get too complacent.

Jellygirl: Glad to find somebody just like me! ^5! :)

5:15 PM  
Blogger the politician said...

haha yea it promotes competition no doubt. read an article on the Today newspaper forums, this lady wrote in. She says that albeit we are attracting foreign talent to boost our economy, she feels that singaporeans are in turn being marginalised. i couldnt agree more. heck this might be inspiration for my next post. =P

8:00 PM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

Politician: I'll be sure to read it and give my 2 cents worth. :) Haha.

12:56 AM  

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