Sunday, March 27, 2005

Just A Thought

I was online the other day when a former classmate of mine signed in on MSN. His nick read, “What do I want in my life?” I sent him an instant message and jokingly said, "You need sex dude". To which he replied, "Sex? Aiyah, sex to me is like kissing liao".

Now I didn't know if he really meant it or not, but if he did, that's really sad. Like I said in one of my previous entries, I believe that sex is an expression of love and it's sad to see this expression lose it's meaning be reduced to a mere recreational activity. Sex outside marriage loses its purity and to have sex casually makes it totally lose its whole meaning. It simply becomes another activity for pleasure.

To me, your own body isn't just a body, it represents you, and is something that you don't simply give away to anyone. And when you do decide to give it away, who else to give it than to the person you love the most in your life? Sex is not only expression of love but also of trust and commitment, which you can give only within the boundaries of marriage.

Outside marriage, the promise of commitment is something that one cannot give as all you have are words. In marriage however, that promise is bound by action which is more than just words. That's why I feel that sex should be done within the context of marriage.

Sad to say, nowadays the meaning of marriage is disappearing as well. With everything losing it's meaning, no wonder problems like broken families and AIDS are on the rise.

Hmm.. I wonder if I'm making sense. I'm thinking too much today.


Blogger Unknown said...

Hmm...but what if he took the "you need sex" phrase seriously? That would've kinda defeat the purpose of sex within marriage bit.

6:28 AM  
Blogger Jayaxe said...

No man, people don't treat sex so sacredly. If so, there will be no such things as red light districts and pron liao! Sekali you inspired him to go on a romp in Geylang. Hahaha.

9:10 AM  
Blogger miryclay said...


1) your tongue could really touch your nose? i must see it for myself soon! heh, does this means you've got a long tongue or a very dextrous one? *sniggers*

2) people dont believe me that i am (and still is) a virgin. and i have a friend who tells me, "virginity is over-rated". so imagine that.

3) let's go for a sushi buffet soon before i start my diet!!!

by the way, just a passing thought, has it been close to 3 years with the super lovable girlfriend?

11:16 AM  
Blogger Melissa said...

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2:09 PM  
Blogger Melissa said...

im afraid that the cultures of the world are decaying. in fact, its more evident in the states. you'll be surprised at the number of kids losing their virginity at the age of 13 (and later on in life they do not feel even a tinge of remorse). Because society(esp the media with great help from paris hilton, may i add) celebrate casual sex. lovely.

i was just wondering, so do you guys still prefer to marry virgins? :P

That is not a rhetorical question, you ought to answer. I wish to know. :)

2:16 PM  
Blogger ahdokboy said...

respect man.... you have good morals.

10:07 PM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

unknown: Nah, I was joking. Anyway that classmate of mine knows me well enough to know that I was just messing around.

jayaxe: At least people treated it with much more sacredly before and there still people who still do. Nowadays, everything is going haywire. Man with woman, man with man, woman with woman, man with animal also got. Haha.

Melissa: That's right. Everything just seems to be decaying. Paris Hilton is just too HOT. Haha. For me, I'd prefer to marry a virgin though I won't list it a prequisite. What I don't like are the hyprocritical guys who sleep around but expect to marry a virgin.

ahdokboy: Thanks. Not many people think the same way though. Haha.

2:11 AM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

Miryclay: Hmm.. You should read what I said very carefully again about the sticking out your tongue and touching your nose. Haha. Yep, it's coming to 3 years. :)

2:22 AM  
Blogger fiona said...

so... are you still one ? :P

4:10 AM  
Blogger A.Ball.of.Yarn said...

You have to blame Sammyboy too, for creating a perception amongst Singaporean men that casual sex is acceptable behavior. As for sex strictly within marriage? Ideal, but tough situation.

10:46 AM  
Blogger Ah 9 said...

10 years wasn't as bad as it is as young as 10 or 11 know what's fuck, finger, blowjob, go steady, porn...etc etc. The works. Gosh...

12:33 AM  
Blogger Bubblemunche said...

I really hope I would have relieve myself of my never-been-laid status by the time I'm 40. Ha!

9:53 PM  
Anonymous pHuAy said...

Gerome.. Why are u sounding so much like... a guy full of ur philosophies?? Hahahaha...

But well, I do agree on what u said. It's really something between 2 people, not an activity for pleasure. If it is, then it's so wrong!!

11:25 PM  
Blogger Zen|th said...

Fiona: Yes, I'm still one. Same like Bubblemunche. Haha.

ball.of.yarn: It seems like having affairs is an accepted things nowadays. Watch the recent dramas on channel 8 and you'll see.

ah 9: Yeah. No wonder kids are losing their viginity at a younger age.

bubblemunch: I'm sure your status won't take that long to change. Who knows, some of your readers might be secretly lusting after you. Haha.

phuay: Sometimes I think too much, that's why.

2:52 PM  
Anonymous BiaTcH said...

sex ...
i can go on and on...
abt losing the whole meaning of love making...

now ? its an expression of love.
no marital status required ..
sharing of the most intimate moment together...
and of course.. the ever so popular.. jus needing to release.
DIY just doesnt work very well now.

so.. sex. best done with alcohol and in a state of stupor.
u enjoy the moment.
u dont remember the party.

how cool is that ?

6:37 PM  

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